Memories from the Golden Era

In 1984 I was being named a pioneer.  A day I could never forget because I didn’t get it from the first time. It was a big shame not to be in the first battalion that received the scarf with the ring during a festive ceremony.

More than 40 years of Communism turned Romanian people in a unconsciously oppressive model of education.

A moral violence inside the social pattern holding a truth value, taken as educational guidance and passed on to future generations.

My parents were disappointed. Social acceptance defines you so you couldn’t blame them.

I don’t blame them now either, when they pray to God that I find my (good) path again and put the kids in schools again. In their point of view I am ruining their future.

Also in 1984 the great French philosopher Michel Foucault died. He had this theory that considered traditional family a fascist Oedipian model.

Meaning ill.

He believed that parents’ obligations are of an oppressive nature for the child and therefore the child develops an ill psychological relationship with the parent.

You could be familiar with the words “My father used to be a tough person, but he was tight to be so, he made a man out of me using beating. I got to thank him now”.

We get to appreciate a person that terrorized us when we were little.

Is this normal?

I love you, Dad, but I’m sorry, your grandchildren won’t be pioneers!

Signed,

An anonymous Romanian psychologist

Amintiri din Epoca de Aur

In 1984 eram facut pionier. Nu am cum sa uit ziua pentru ca nu am capatat rangul din prima. Era o rusine sa nu faci parte din primul batalion caruia ii erau inmanate cravata si inelul intr-un cadru festiv. 40 si ceva de ani de pionierat si Comunism au transformat societatea romaneasca intr-un model inconstient opresiv.

O violenta morala inauntrul paternului social cu valoare de adevar, preluata ca si model educativ si transmisa generational mai departe.

Parintii mei au fost dezamagiti.  Acceptarea sociala vis-a-vis de norme face parte din modul in care te definesti, nu am cum sa-i condamn pentru ce au simtit.

Nu-i condamn nici acum pentru ca ei se roaga la Dumnezeu sa-mi revin pe drumul cel bun si sa-mi dau copiii la scoala.

Din punctul lor de vedere le distrug viitorul.

Corect, il distrug, nu le doresc un astfel de viitor.

Tot in 1984 a murit marele psiholog francez Michel Foucault care avea o teorie in care considera familia traditionala un model Oedipal fascist. In consecinta bolnav.

El credea ca obligatiile parintilor sunt la un nivel opresiv pentru copil si in acest fel copilul dezvolta o relatie psihologica bolnava cu parintele.

Daca va sunt cunoscute cuvintele “Tata era un om dur dar avea dreptate, m-a facut om cu bataia. Ii multumesc acum!”

Noi ajungem sa iubim pe cine ne-a terorizat cand eram mici!

E normal?!

Eu am cravata mea de pionier,

Si ma **** cu ea,

De pionier,

Si cu inelul fac o ****

De pionier!

Te iubesc, tata, dar imi pare rau, nepotii tai nu vor fi pionieri!

Semnat,

Un Psiholog Roman Anonim